Alright, here we go. You’ve been out a couple of times. He checks off a couple of your boxes. There might be some potential. Hell, you might kind of like him.
It’s the beginning of the end.
Since you’re still putting your best face forward (literally, since he probably hasn’t seen you without make up yet), and honestly, nothing brings out your inner crazy quite like dating someone new. So many possibilities! So many ways to f*ck it all up…
But guess what? You CAN ignore your inner crazy person. It’s super simple: Don’t overthink everything. Ok, just kidding, it’s easier said than done. So, here are a couple of (honestly obvious) reminders to just keep you grounded during this annoying uncertain stage so that maybe, you can actually enjoy it a little.
Don’t chase the commitment.
If you’re feeling seriously anxious about his level of interest, you can definitely say something about how that makes you feel uncertain or disrespected. Don’t ask about how he’s feeling; if he’s a decent human, he’ll jump in to offer some consolation to ease that anxiety. If he’s not, there’s your answer.
HOWEVER. This does not mean you need to chase him down for exclusivity. Think about it this way: If the roles were reversed and he was trying to tie you down early on, wouldn’t you be kind of hesitant?
Let him work a little.
Don’t forget your self-worth! Just because the beginning of this new thing makes you so anxious you want to puke, doesn’t mean you’re at his mercy. You don’t have to play The Game by all the rules, but let’s face it… guys like to hunt or earn you.
As Blair Waldorf says:
“I’m not a stop along the way. I’m the destination, and if you refuse to come, I’m going to have to find a replacement.”
Don’t forget that. And don’t let him. Let him call you and make plans. When he steps up and courts you again, you’ll feel a whole helluva lot better about everything… and if he doesn’t, well, at least now you know.
Just live your f*cking life, ok?
Instead of overanalyzing every single interaction with this guy, put your damn phone down and do something you love. If you’re really freaking out, Elite Daily has a list of 54 things you can do instead of texting him that’s an entertaining place to start, but honestly, the best cure for this anxiety that I’ve found, is to just go out and do my own thing. You’ll be amazed at how things just fall into place when you’re enjoying yourself.